When someone we love is hurting, we want to fix it. We search for the right words and often say nothing because we are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Here is what helps more than perfect words.
Start with presence
“I am here.” “I am not going anywhere.” Those words matter more than advice. Sit with them. Let the quiet be okay.
Ask before you fix
Try, “Do you want help figuring this out, or do you just need me to listen?” It shows respect and takes pressure off both of you.
Follow up later
The first week everyone shows up. Check in a month later. A simple text that says, “Thinking of you today,” can mean a lot.
You will not get it perfect. Love shows up anyway.
